Can A Man Lust After His Own Wife?


Is it possible for a man to lust after his own wife?

This is an interesting and thought-provoking question which I have been asked occasionally over the years. I used to say, “How can a man have sinful thoughts about his own wife? He is supposed to be turned on by her body.” 

For the most part, this remains my feeling about it. However, I would like to add a qualification to this response. If a man’s sexual interest in his wife’s body does not include genuine affection and an unselfish desire to please her physically and emotionally, then it is possible that his sexual arousal is nothing more than lust. If we get right down to the “bare bones” of the subject, lust is simply using another person’s body to gratify one’s own sexual desires. If that describes your sexual desires for your wife, then I would answer, “Yes, it is possible to lust after your own wife.”