October eNews: "Something was wrong, but I couldn't figure out what it was"

Voices by Glenn Meldrum

I grew up in a Christian home, with godly parents who taught me about the Lord from a young age. I even went to a Christian college and worked for two different mission organizations.

In 1997 I married a man I had known for about fifteen years. We both wanted to serve the Lord and live for Him. However, the first seven years of our marriage were rough. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but I knew something was wrong. He immersed himself in his work and I spent weekends back with my family. Over the years, we slowly grew apart. We were still living in the same house, but in two completely different worlds, yet all the while maintaining the façade that we were the perfect Christian couple. What I didn’t know was that he also had a long history of sexual sin which was still affecting his life, his actions, and his feelings toward me.

In early 2004, both our worlds came crashing down very quickly. My husband confessed to me all the sin he’d been involved in over the years. After being dismissed from his job I remember him saying to me, “I’m willing to do anything to deal with this problem.” And I responded, “Would you be willing to go to Pure Life Ministries?”

Thankfully, in May 2004 he enrolled in the Residential program and about two months later I began the Wives’ program. I quickly learned that I too had many issues that needed to be addressed—pride and selfishness, unrealistic expectations when it came to marriage, and what it really means to follow Christ. The Lord dealt with me in these areas, teaching me to “set my affections on things above, not on things of the earth.” (Col. 3:2)

Fear of man was another big issue for me. I was very self-conscious and concerned with what others thought of me. But, I learned that by putting the needs of others above my own, that fear just disappeared. I also came into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He was no longer just someone I read about or knew about in my head. He was living inside me and was real in my heart. He was the One I could go to with all my needs and He was more than enough to meet them all.

In 2005, we knew the Lord was calling us back to Pure Life Ministries to serve Him and we’ve been here ever since. Although it was hard to leave our family, He has given us far more than we’ve given up! He’s restored our marriage and has taught us both what it means to have Him at the center of everything we do. To God be the glory!

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Karla Buch oversees Pure Life's accounts payable and receivable, payroll, banking, and coordinates preparation of financial statements and tax returns. Before coming to Pure Life Ministries, Karla worked in the finance departments for several other nonprofit corporations. She has served at the Ministry since 2005.

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