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If you've been devastated by your husband's sexual sin, don't give up. We're here to tell you that there is still hope for your marriage.
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We know full well that the pain can be overwhelming when a wife first unearths the appalling truth about her husband’s secret life. Her thoughts and emotions swirl around inside her as if in a blender. One moment she is in a rage toward her husband; the next moment she is engulfed in fear and hopelessness; then she goes into a cold numbness. Sorting through these vacillating feelings of betrayal and rejection can be very difficult while in the middle of such a raging storm.
Not only must you face your husband’s disloyalty, but you must also work your way through those feelings of overwhelming rejection. Facing the unspoken (or sometimes even spoken) accusation that there is something wrong with you is like a punch in the gut.
We know full well that the pain can be overwhelming when a wife first unearths the appalling truth about her husband’s secret life. Her thoughts and emotions swirl around inside her as if in a blender. One moment she is in a rage toward her husband; the next moment she is engulfed in fear and hopelessness; then she goes into a cold numbness.
Sorting through these vacillating feelings of betrayal and rejection can be very difficult while in the middle of such a raging storm. No doubt this is what you have experienced. Not only must you face your husband’s disloyalty, but you must also work your way through those feelings of overwhelming rejection. Facing the unspoken (or sometimes even spoken) accusation that there is something wrong with you is like a punch in the gut.
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Over 40 years ago, Steve Gallagher nearly shattered his wife Kathy when he confessed a secret addiction to porn and adulterous encounters. This brought their marriage to the brink of destruction. But God came powerfully to Steve and led him into victory over sexual sin and gave him a passion for Christ. He also moved mightily in Kathy's heart and she found healing from the devastation through a deep relationship with Jesus. In 1986, they co-founded Pure Life Ministries to help lead other men and women into the same freedom and healing they had experienced. In the decades since, we've ministered to thousands of Christian husbands and wives.
Our counseling program for wives is uniquely tailored to address the often-overlooked struggles of a wife whose husband is involved in sexual sin. Each one of our wives’ counselors has traversed this dark valley herself. This experience has prepared her to be a compassionate and trustworthy friend for the counselee who needs support. Her personal experience gives her the ability to be a godly influence for the woman who is navigating her way through the maze of issues involved. When the consequences of sexual sin inevitably bring about marital difficulties, she can help the wife address the problem biblically.
“When my husband committed adultery, I felt so betrayed. I went to the Bible, looking for justification to divorce, but I became convinced that God wanted me to stay—that He had a higher purpose for this. As we went through...
“Kathy Gallagher’s book When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart was the first resource I had found that offered any hope of comfort for me as the wife of a man struggling with sexual sin. I felt like each page I read described...
The impact of sexual sin has invariably introduced so much pain and strong emotions that it is best, for a season, to help men and their wives work through their individual issues separately. By helping each of them develop godly attitudes and habits, they will be much better prepared to then address marital issues. When God has been given His rightful place in their hearts, lives and marriage, problems that once seemed insurmountable become much more manageable, perhaps even without the need of formal marriage counseling.
Hope abounds and lives are transformed at Pure Life Ministries. Our flagship counseling program has a long history of success for good reason. Our students are separated from familiar sources of temptation, placed in an atmosphere full of the presence of God, and discipled by trained biblical counselors who have their own testimony of victory. They focus on the root issues of their sexual sin while immersed in an ideal environment for building a new life in Christ.
Residential ProgramMany people in the grip of sexual sin become so demoralized by repeated failures that lasting victory seems impossible. What a blessing it is to be counseled by someone who has battled through for their own victory over sexual addiction and then been trained to help others achieve an overcoming life. This 12-week program was developed for those who sincerely desire freedom but whose circumstances make the Residential Program an unrealistic option for them.
Overcomers At-HomeThe exposure of a husband’s sexual sin leaves a wife feeling devastated and perplexed. In this very vulnerable season of her life, it is an invaluable opportunity to be able to confide in a godly woman who has been through this same painful experience herself. Our 12-week Wives Program pairs the hurting wife with a trained biblical counselor, anchors her in the truth of God’s Word, and provides her with a safe atmosphere to work through the painful issues at hand.
Wives Program"I desperately needed a miracle and Pure Life Ministries was the vessel the Lord used in my life. My life has never been the same since. I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt, I would not be where I am today if it had not been for the Lord and the anointed ministry of Pure Life."
Luke - Syracuse, NY
"Pure Life Ministries truly presented what it means to be a disciple of Christ and challenged us all to make the full commitment to be a real disciple of Jesus. No nonsense or compromise. They showed us the pure mercy of God to make us real, overcoming men of God."
Paul - Kansas City, MO
"Pure Life Ministries changed our lives forever. I have a new husband who loves me and more importantly, loves Jesus. I would never have chosen for sexual addiction to touch my life, but thank God that He has used all of it as an avenue of His grace, and mercy in our lives."
Sue - Los Altos, CA
The impact of sexual sin has invariably introduced so much pain and strong emotions that it is best, for a season, to help men and their wives work through their individual issues separately. By helping each of them develop godly attitudes and habits, they will be much better prepared to then address marital issues. When God has been given His rightful place in their hearts, lives and marriage, problems that once seemed insurmountable become much more manageable, perhaps even without the need of formal marriage counseling.
When caught up in the storm of revealed sexual sin, a hurting wife has tremendous difficulty facing the onslaught of emotions as they rush upon her. Oftentimes, her feelings send her into emergency mode as she attempts to save her marriage at any cost. Kathy herself lived through this struggle as a young bride when she first married Steve Gallagher. When his sin came out, she was overcome with fear, doubt and anger. However, as time went on, the Lord taught her to put her trust in Him and His Word, which provides hope that does not disappoint. She has since counseled hundreds of wives, helping them to deal with their husband's sin in a godly and biblical way. In this video, she encourages wives to stand their ground amidst the unrelenting surge of these powerful emotions.
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The exposure of a husband’s sexual sin leaves a wife feeling devastated and perplexed. In this very vulnerable season of her life, it is an invaluable opportunity to be able to confide in a godly woman who has been through this same painful experience herself. Our 12-week Wives Program pairs the hurting wife with a trained biblical counselor, anchors her in the truth of God’s Word, and provides her with a safe atmosphere to work through the painful issues at hand.
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