If someone were to ask me for advice on how to remain in sin and still consider themselves a Christian, this would be the advice I would give. All I have to do is look at my own journey to discover how each of these areas were strongholds that served to fortify my sinful lifestyle.
Many are familiar with the old expression: “But for the grace of God there go I.” It typically wells up within some grateful believer’s heart when he sees a drunk staggering down the street or some such scene. Although I appreciate the gratitude and humility being expressed, I’ve come to dislike this statement.
My heart is heavy and full after the two telephone calls I received today. The unfortunate truth of the matter is that these were fairly typical of the conversations I engage in regularly at Pure Life Ministries. The first call I received was from a distraught woman named Julie. Her marriage has been, in her words, “27 years of hell,” misery caused in part by her husband's anger. Like other wives in similar situations, she has vacillated between being rebellious and trying to appease his insane episodes of rage.
Since 1991, Pure Life Ministries has been ministering to the hurting wives of sexual addicts through our Wives Program. Over and over again, God has proved that He has power to comfort devastated wives and restore broken marriages. We hope you’re blessed by the highlights from some of these women’s testimonies.
It is Sunday morning at the Cathedral of Hope in Dallas. Cars by the hundreds begin filing past Ruth’s Chris Steak House and the local Taco Bell. The parking lot fills, the cars empty and a stream of people—Bibles in hand—make their way into the church. The meeting opens with the congregation vigorously singing the latest Hillsong and Vineyard music. Some raise their hands to God, while others openly weep, caught up in the emotion of the moment. Eventually, Pastor Jo Hudson makes her way to the podium, opens her Bible and brings her Sunday morning sermon. The congregation listens attentively—nearly four thousand openly, avowed homosexuals who sincerely believe they have an intimate relationship with God.
Trust and respect are foundational for a good marriage. So what can a wife do when she has lost respect for her husband?
A great many of the men who come to us, bound in sexual sin, want to know, “Have I committed the unpardonable sin?” They want to know if they are beyond hope.
My husband was unfaithful 3 years ago and I think he may be in adultery again. We have not had sex in months. I confronted him, but I only get excuses. How do I know the difference in “not growing weary in well doing,” and enabling his sin?
If it is true that one out of every five men sitting in America’s pews is saturating his mind with the evil images of pornography, how does this effect the overall level of godliness in the Church? It seems that the general urgency to live a consecrated life is at an all-time low. Self-centered living seems to have replaced true sacrificial love. A hunger for God has been exchanged for a lust for entertainment. While the Church is weathering a fierce spiritual onslaught from without, the godly character needed for this battle rots within.
Steve Gallagher gives pastors a gameplan for dealing with sexual sin in the church.