It is completely natural for a person to desire a happy life and fulfilling marriage. However, many women discover that what they believed would bring the most happiness has been the most painful thing in their lives.

It is at this point that women must answer this question: is God truly able to make all things work together for the good of those who love Him?

Steve and Kathy Gallagher founded Pure Life Ministries in 1986 to help men and women find God in the midst of their trials, tribulations and personal sin. This process is laden with suffering, but God’s goal for us is sanctification and, ultimately, eternal life.

Many times, when a struggling Christian hears about the power of repentance, he says to himself, "But I have repented--over and over and over again--but it didn't work."

This video exposes the vast difference between real repentance (which leads to victory) and human resolutions to stop sinning (which have no power).

Join Steve Gallagher as shares more of his testimony and shows how God made repentance a lifestyle for him. You will begin to understand how repentance will break the cycle of addiction and lead to an overcoming life.

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Sin has created a world full of devastation and heartbreak. Many wives often find themselves in terribly painful situations because their husbands have been given over to sexual sin. When a man is stuck in sexual sin, he is unable to see clearly the devastation he is causing because his mind is completely overtaken with sin.  

The message of this world is very clear: protect yourself at all costs. Sadly, this message has found its way into the church by appealing to our own sense of self-love and self-preservation, which are contrary to the Lord’s teachings of self-denial and putting others first.

When Kathy Gallagher discovered her new husband’s sexual addiction, she soon gave up on him, filed for divorce, and found a new partner. She wanted nothing to do with suffering, and so she did her best to forget about him. But it soon became clear to her that if she wanted to follow the Lord, it meant fighting for her marriage. In obedience to Him, she went back to Steve, and despite the suffering, learned to selflessly love the man who had hurt her the most. For more on this subject from Kathy Gallagher, watch part two of this video.

Since 1986, Kathy has brought this message of selfless love to hundreds of wives through the ministry of Pure Life Ministries.

We see it all too often. And we see it from both sides. There is the man who is struggling with sexual sin, with his addiction to pornography, but he thinks, “My problem will all go away when I get married.” Then there is the young woman who knows of her fiancé’s struggles, but she marries him anyway, thinking the same thing: “Marriage will fix him.” Today we answer the question “Should I Marry a Man Struggling with Porn?”

For many Christians, living out their faith doesn’t go far beyond going to church on Sunday, not swearing, and not drinking alcohol. But is this all that defines a Christian? Is this what Jesus was talking about when he posed the question, “when the Son of Man comes, will He find faith on the earth?”

The Apostle Paul’s visit to Ephesus brought about a revival among its citizens characterized by wholehearted devotion to Christ. But what started as a pure and genuine following after the Lord became a faith in formalism, having the appearance of godliness but denying its power. Throughout the history of the Christian church, this downgrade of adoration is a common outcome for many revivals that lose that passionate pursuit of Jesus that marked their inception. Following suit, the American church has become a well-polished machine and its members have become more devoted to Christianity’s doctrines than to Christ Himself.

For the Christian addicted to porn, history cannot repeat itself. There IS power to overcome sexual addiction, but there’s more to it than consistent church attendance. If you’re desperate to be free of your sin, follow Steve Gallagher as he exposes the powerlessness of dead religious activity and encourages believers not to settle for an empty Christian existence.

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It seems reasonable to believe that if a person really wants to change, they will change.

In 1986, Steve Gallagher had a powerful experience of repentance and began fighting with all of his strength to find freedom from sexual sin. But it took him a long time, and there were repeated failures. At first, his wife Kathy thought this meant that he wasn’t actually serious about finding victory. But soon she began to realize that Steve was fighting a very powerful addiction, and that human willpower was not sufficient to break the spiritual chains of pornography addiction.

What is the root of sexual addiction? The answer is not what you are expecting.

In the age in which we live, our culture screams, “Live for self!” The avenues of which are seemingly endless. Advertisements galore call out to us and tell us that in order to be happy and fulfilled we must buy their product or be a part of their experience. Indulgence is not only offered, it is highly encouraged. More often than not, a life of simplicity is seen as strange and scoffed at.

Sexual addiction does not happen overnight. Though a person’s history may include circumstances beyond their control, being held captive to sin, especially pornography, is a process. While addictions vary, every addiction begins with a single experience and grows exponentially because of a lack of a person’s self-control. For the Christian stuck in porn, their hang-up is more the culmination of a life of self-centeredness than anything else.

So what does the Bible say about this kind of life? Steve Gallagher explains how his life was shaped by selfishness which primed him for an uncontrollable obsession with pornography and how understanding the role “self” plays in sexual addiction will lead the Christian into a life of true fulfillment and joy.

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“If he really wanted to stop looking at porn, he would!” This kind of thinking seems very reasonable to a wife who has been hurt by many broken promises.

Kathy Gallagher thought this same thing once. Although Steve had a powerful experience of repentance and was fighting with all of his strength to gain freedom from sexual sin, it took him a long time to really get the victory. At first Kathy thought this meant that he wasn’t serious about changing, but she began to realize how powerful Steve’s addiction was, and that human willpower was not enough to break the spiritual chains of pornography addiction.

What does the fear of the Lord have to do with overcoming an addiction to porn? It’s actually a very vital part of the process. The trend in our grace-saturated church culture is to limit the definition of “fear” to just reverence. While this is part of it, it’s surely not the whole.

Steve Gallagher takes on this critical topic and guides the struggling Christian into how true fear of God will set them on the path to freedom from sexual sin.

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When a Christian woman discovers that her husband is addicted to pornography, and has been lying to her for years, the word devastated doesn’t come close to describing how she feels. We want to suggest that there is good cause for her to get on her knees and begin to fight for her husband’s soul. Today we’re asking the question, “Why Should a Wife Fight for Her Marriage?”

Deliverance from porn addiction isn’t won merely through abstinence from technology. The battle ground is within the heart. Steve Gallagher explains why understanding this truth is pivotal for any Christian desperate to overcome sexual sin.

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Kathy’s marriage had been filled with pain and grief because of Steve’s addiction to pornography and infidelity. But God showed her that if she wanted to follow Him, it meant staying faithful to Steve and fighting for her marriage.

During a powerful encounter with God, Steve realized the utter sinfulness of his pornography and adultery. He began to fight with all his strength against the power of the addiction, and after intensely battling for a couple of years, Steve found freedom from sexual addiction. The couple soon began to throw themselves into helping other men and women find freedom from pornography and the pain of betrayal.

In this video, Kathy reflects on the past 35 years of her marriage and testifies of all God’s goodness to her. Not only did He reveal Himself to her, He restored her marriage and used all of the pain and suffering to bring about a harvest of good in the lives of many, many others.